I overheard two women speaking the other day and one said she was an only child. And she said that it never bothered her growing up but now in her thirties, she feels slighted that she doesn’t have siblings to share adult milestones with or additional support as she faces her parent’s aging.

I also recently encountered someone with siblings and they are estranged and don’t share adult milestones together. It made me think of the idea that the “grass is always greener” on the other side to the person looking over the fence.

But when it comes to family, we must broaden our definition and our understanding. God allows us to be born into a bloodline but through salvation we are able to redefine who we call family. Jesus said it the best.

“While He was still talking to the multitudes, behold, His mother and brothers stood outside, seeking to speak with Him. Then one said to Him, ‘Look, your mother and your brothers are standing outside, seeking to speak with You.’ But He answered and said to the one who told Him, ‘Who is My mother and who are My brothers?’ And He stretched out His hand toward His disciples and said, ‘Here are My mother and My brothers! For whoever does the will of My Father in heaven is My brother and sister and mother.’”

(Matthew 12:46-50).

God supplies our needs in every area of our life when we just submit. God knows how to make you a family. He will hand pick people and put you in each other’s lives and your responsibility is to discern who sent them and honor them as a gift from God.

Be sure to be planted in the right church because that is core to your divine support system. Go where God wants you not just where “momma and them” go.

“So now you Gentiles are no longer strangers and foreigners. You are citizens along with all of God’s holy people. You are members of God’s family. Together, we are His house, built on the foundation of the apostles and the prophets. And the cornerstone is Christ Jesus Himself. We are carefully joined together in Him, becoming a holy temple for the Lord. Through Him you Gentiles are also being made part of this dwelling where God lives by his Spirit.”

(Ephesians 2:19-22).

Don’t compromise your convictions or your calling trying to hold onto or get approval from people who share your bloodline. Keep praying for them and forgive them and be kind to them so they can see Christ in you but trust God to deliver them and save them (1 Corinthians 3:6).

The Kingdom of God is like a garden. You must sow to reap. Sow love and God will ensure you reap love (Galatians 6:7). He will send people to love you and support you. He is so good like that. We must let go of these preconceived ideas that just because someone says